C made speedy recovery and went visiting with us this CNY. Visits were kept brief but purpose served - to reconnect with our families/relatives and to enjoy the festivity.
2015 has been good so far. The kids are relatively healthy and they get to spend more time together. Siblings rivalry is still strong, arguments between them rampant but both being older now means they back away from fights and give in more easily. That's an improvement.
Couple of months ago, we went into a state of worry when told that our girl was not performing well in school. The raise of this issue triggered off the red flag especially having taken a mental note of her inability to focus and other behavioural issues.
You see, we have 2 very special children in this household. They are direct opposites of each other in terms of physical abilities, temperament and learning abilities. These significant differences sometimes made it hard for us to disregard their differing pace in development.
Seeking help from a therapist has opened up my heart a little more and brought new perspectives. As the therapist had said, it's not all about academic achievements and having a child who is able to recite her alphabets and numbers (forth and backwards). What good does it do to have a child who is intelligent but fails to strive in a social environment? Or to kill a child's love for learning when pressured to conform to today's standards? It is important for parents to grasp that not all are built the same (there will be elites and there will be commoners). Setting boundaries/rules and having "punishments" in placed are a must to groom and guide a child but having done that, parents must come to understand that at the end of the day, whatever the outcome, your child needs to know that parents love them for who they are, it is ok for them to stumble and fall, to not live up to expectations and that they can go back to their parents for emotional support and acceptance. Building a relationship with your child is all that matters to ensure that they grow up as secured, confident, esteemed adults.
This got me thinking about C. When we were first expecting C, we spent a long time naming him. We wished for him to be knowledgeable, excels and performs better than his peers hence the name 闻越 was chosen. Indeed he grew up to be all that we asked for; an intelligent boy with a thirst for learning and advanced than most toddlers his age. If only we knew... then perhaps asking for good health would have been the wisest thing to do. It is only under circumstances as such, we parents get a reality check and come to realise that nothing beats a good healthy body. What would YOU ask for your child? Think hard and think twice.
Which is why our wishes for the year were kept simple - children to stay healthy, things to be smooth sailing and adults to take things in stride.
(Fast forward...)
Today is Rare Disease Day. This year, we celebrated the day with other special families at Bishan Park. Here are some of the photos taken:
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| Group photo of the families present |
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| Hand-prints of Papa, Mama & Big C circled in photo |
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| The Lam Family |
Tomorrow will be another long day for us as we celebrate C second birthday. Stay tuned for more updates! Got to sleep now. Good night all.
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